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Here we begin another layer of exploration of the possibilities within each of us as we move along with O Magazine through September 2011...beyond the Oprah show, beyond Oprah...

Friday, March 18, 2011

The Flip Side of Gratitude

Nike has long told us to "just do it", and pop culture infiltrated with New Age everywhere reminds us to be grateful. I am all for gratitude, but I often see its messy underbelly in myself and others who indeed are grateful, but for whom there are associated complexities.

Today a wise one taught me something I had not considered. Underneath my inability to "just do it" regarding taking care of my physical health lies anger. Under anger lies hurt regarding the ways I have not done this and the ways I was not nourished to do so. Every time I try to "do it", I am reminded of the places like this in which I have felt deprived. In other words, my genuine effort to nurture a sense of gratitude and abundance inevitably brings up old hurts, feelings of desperate scarcity--until I heal to them.

I make a list of things I am angry about. The list breeds tears, and hurt reveals itself. I experience that it will not kill me, and instead that feeling the feelings releases me.

I want to be a Nike ad, but It is truly more complicated for me. I allow compassion for myself in this place to seep in, and I keep doing. Keep feeling. Keep moving. Perhaps not yet running, but at least stepping out my front door.

1 comments:

marni said...

and that- stepping out your front door- is step one. a step. a good step.